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"If you don't change your direction,
you will end up where you are headed."

The solution to your problem lies not in what you can see, but what you can't. This keeps you going around around in circles when you genuinely try to move forward. This blindspot is the source of being stuck. Identify that, change that and you not only move forward in new ways, but you feel like yourself again . . . or the first time. This therapy seeks to identify and address that underlying cause for a sustained change in your life.
With straightforward guidance and compassion, this therapy is designed to create as much progress as possible in each session. The length of therapy always depends upon what you want to accomplish. Techniques are available where needed to move your progress forward down a new path, toward a greater happiness.
The stages of therapy follow this wonderful poem:
There’s A Hole In My Sidewalk (Book) By Portia Nelson
Autobiography In Five Short Chapters (Poem)
[*NOTE: Most often therapy begins in getting from Chapter Two (YOUR Blind Spot)
to Chapter Three (Understanding and Ownership of Behavior Blind Spot so there are new real possibilities in personal and relationship situations)]
Chapter One
I walk down the street.
There is a deep hole in the sidewalk.
I fall in.
I am lost . . . I am helpless.
It isn’t my fault.
It takes forever to find a way out.
Chapter Two*
I walk down the same street.
There is a deep hole in the sidewalk.
I pretend I don’t see it.
I fall in again.
I can’t believe I am in this same place.
But it isn’t my fault.
It still takes a long time to get out.
Chapter Three*
I walk down the same street.
There is a deep hole in the sidewalk.
I see it is there.
I still fall in . . . it’s a habit . . . but,
My eyes are open.
I know where I am.
It is my fault.
I get out immediately.
Chapter Four
I walk down the same street.
There is a deep hole in the sidewalk.
I walk around it.
Chapter Five
I walk down another street.
Something significantly new awaits you.
I hope I have the privilege to work with you soon.
Sincerely,
Don
Don Elium, MA MFT, practices individual and couple counseling in his office in Walnut Creek, CA,
San Francisco Bay Area
He also works by PHONE as well as through VIDEOCAM Online with those in the United States and Internationally.
Don is author, with his wife Jeanne,of four best selling books, including Raising a Family
For Couple Counseling Click Here
Don is completing a fifth book on YOUR Relationship Blind Spot: Don't Hold Yourself Hostage Waiting For Someone Else To Change! (Click Here)