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What Is The Difference Between A Complaint And A Criticism?

What Is The Difference Between Resentment and Hatred?

She Teased Me, I Teased Her, She Blew Up!: What Do I Do Now?

Three Bad Reasons To Separate (And One Good One)

Key Points for Telling Children About a Separation and Divorce

Should I Date While Separated?

How Do I Stop Divorce Email Wars?

What Is Your Relationship Sweet Spot?

The Five Languages Of Apology

The Hidden Grief Of A Short Sale!

How To Solve Chronic Snoring: The Ultimate Relationship Buzz Kill

How Do I Get My Partner To Lose Weight?

Can This Weekend Getaway Fix Our Relationship and Sexual Problems?

How Am I Suppose To Know What She Wants?

How Do I Recover From The Grief of the Death Of A Loved One?

How Do I Recover From The Grief of the Divorce?

He Cheats, I'm Confused: Should I Trust Him Now?

What Do I Do If I Am Talking To Someone Who Is Talking About Suicide?

Sometimes life is far harder than you ever expected.

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Getting lost in your circumstances is not a disease. However, sometimes without realizing it, you blindly do the same old thing over and over and expect a different result every time. That is, until mapofwalnutcreekca1a1ayou just can't take it anymore.

Then how you "really feel" becomes stronger than how you "should feel." This can feel very uncomfortable, however, it is the doorway to finding new and real possibilities in all the situations in your life.

Don Elium, MA MFT, practices individual and couple counseling in his office in Walnut Creek, CA, San Francisco Bay Area.

Email Don@DonElium.com Click Here

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What is best to do after a bad argument?

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What Is The Difference Between A Complaint And A Criticism?

I have a deep love in my heart for my wife. However, she says I am too critical of her. Truth is, I am so frustrated with her inconsiderate, passive-aggressive behavior that I feel like pulling out my hair. I don't know what is wrong with her. Her mother was the same way. She does this kind of stuff all the time. This morning I was greeted, once again, with a sink full of dishes she agreed to do last night before bed. I had to spend twenty minutes clearing them to be able to start my day, and I was late for work. What should I do?---At Wit's End   [Click Here For Answer]

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listenearsMy spouse has been extremely upset with me for quite a while now. How do I best listen to such an angry, resentful, blaming person?

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What Do I Do If I Know Someone Who Is Talking About Suicide?

I have a friend who is going through a very hard time. He won't reach out for counseling but he is talking to me. He keeps talking about not wanting to live. Yesterday he used the word suicide for the first time, what should I do?--Greatly Concerned [Click Here For Answer]

 

She Teased Me, I Teased Her, She Blew Up!: What Do I Do Now?

wwdmouthtape1My wife and I banter back and forth in our relationship, and most of the time it is just good-natured kidding and playful "name calling." But last week on vacation she called me a "name" and I shot back calling her another "name" and she became very, very mad at me. So mad that the last two days of our long-awaited vacation was ruined because she stopped speaking to me! I apologized profusely, said I didn't mean it, but it took until we got home before she warmed up. There is still an uneasy distance between us. I didn't say anything to her that I had not said before. Do I just let this go to fade away over time, or do I talk to her about it? ~ Hurt and Bewildered [Click Here For Answer

 

Why Are Our Conversations At Home Like TV Courtroom Drama?!

courtroomdramaDear Don, I want to talk more openly with my wife about things but we always end up in an argument about who is right and who is wrong over the silliest points. Our conversations are more like the courtroom dramas on TV. Is there a guide somewhere about what make a conversation productive and what makes one not productive in marriage?--Feel Like I Am In A Courtroom! [Click Here For Answer]

 

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Don Elium, MA MFT

Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist MFC#28381

Individual & Couple Psychotherapy

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