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Getting lost in your circumstances is not a disease. Life is just harder than you ever imagined. However, sometimes without realizing it, you blindly do the same old thing over and over and expect a different result every time. That is, until you just can't take it anymore.
Then how you "really feel" becomes stronger than how you "should feel." This can feel very uncomfortable, however, it is the beginning of finding yourself again in all the situations in your life.
This therapy helps you, step by step, grow and learn to face what life has brought you and feel the freshness of new possiblities in yourself and those you love from how you really feel, what you really want, and how you really want to live.
Don Elium, MA MFT, practices individual and couple counseling in his office in Walnut Creek, CA, San Francisco Bay Area. He also works by PHONE as well as through VIDEOCAM Online with those in the United States and Internationally. Don is author, with his wife Jeanne,of four best selling books, including Raising a Family Don is completing a fifth book on how to stop doing the thing that drives your partner crazy.
www.YourRelationshipBlindSpot.com
How Can I Stop My Emotional Over-Reactions? Click Here
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Can This Weekend Getaway Fix Our Relationship Problems?
Dear Don
I am planning a surprise weekend 
getaway in two weeks. The kids are handled. The pets are handled. I even have a housekeeper coming on the weekend away so the house will be fresh for her when we get home. However, we have been having some hard times the past year and the pressure has been so strong I decided to do something about it so I planned this trip. We haven't been sexual nor very affectionate for the past six months so I am nervous about being close this weekend. I know in the past I have been too aggressive and have blown things up so I don't want to do that this time. How can I be more in control of the weekend than before?~Taking Action Under Pressure (Click Here For Question and Answer)
How Am I Suppose To Know What She Wants?!
Dear Don,
Last week I started a birthday firestorm by giving my wife presents that not only did she not want, but she said they were insulting. This must have been a long time coming because we have been married for over 20. I feel bad about her birthday. But I am shocked and my feelings are hurt. Holiday season is a around the corner. We have not uttered a word about it since. What am I doing wrong? ---Not Wanting A Doghouse For The Holiday (Click Here For Question and Answer)
I Need To Forgive Him, But I Can't!
Dear Don,
My father has returned to my life. I am having trouble with this, because over my entire lifetime, he flipped from being a mean drunk to a nice guy. Two years ago he did another round of recovery, and this time it seems to have stuck. Other family members report that he is not drinking. He seems to be keeping his agreements and genuinely making amends to everyone where he can. While this sounds all nice and great, I am still angry with him. He ruined all of our lives. What's up with this man who was so mean all the time? As I write this my anger wells up in my chest and throat. I admit that somewhere deep down I feel love for him, but that went into hiding many years ago. My anger at my father keeps me from giving him a chance. I want to forgive him, but I can't. What do I do?---Pushing A Good Thing (Click Here For Question and Answer)
I Need To Shut Up But I Can't!
I need to shut up, but I can't. My sister and brother sat me down and confronted me about how angry I get at people when they disagree with me. They say that I am so opinionated that they have stopped wanting to be around me, because they get the impression that I think they are stupid. This is tough medicine to swallow. I spoke to my husband, who I thought loved my "spiritedness," and I was shocked to find out—after much prodding--that he, too, after ten years of marriage, had given up disagreeing with me about almost anything. I thought we were close. I really want to be loving with them. Sigh. (Click Here For Question and Answer)
Grief: When The Mind Argues With Reality
Something significantly new awaits you.
Whether in the office, on the phone, or video webcam,
I hope I have the privilege to work with you soon.
Sincerely,
Don
Walnut Creek, CA [San Francisco Bay Area, USA] Office: 925 256-8282
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PARTNERSHIP
"But let there be spaces in your togetherness,
And let the winds of the heavens dance between you.
Love one another but make not a bond of love:
Let it rather be a moving sea between the shores of your souls.
Fill each other's cup but drink not from one cup. Give one another of your bread but eat not from the same loaf.
Sing and dance together and be joyous, but let each one of you be alone, Even as the strings of a lute are alone though they quiver with the same music.
Give your hearts, but not into each other's keeping. For only the hand of Life can contain your hearts. And stand together, yet not too near together: For the pillars of the temple stand apart, And the oak tree and the cypress grow not in each other's shadow." ~Kahlil Gibran
Member California Association of Marriage & Family Therapist
Accredited as a provider of Continuing Education by the
Board of Behavioral Sciences, State of California, Approval No. PCE 3717
(Lic. # MFC28381)
Based on new upcoming book.